About
About
Why Divorce Management
Neal Prevost, a divorce attorney, leads the Center For Divorce Management. He has over 28 years of experience in family law and has dealt with hundreds of divorces. His observation through the years has been that the decision to divorce will affect children, parents, schools, cities, and ultimately, the nation for generations to follow. In other words, the ripple in the pond of life is huge.
Divorce Management results from his personal "Jerry Maguire" moment and his decision to try to change the system. It is also the framework with a different approach. An approach that seeks first to restore and save marriages. If that attempt fails, this approach then seeks to manage divorce in a manner that will reduce the destruction, alienation, and financial ruin that causes so much post-divorce turmoil.
A Community of Like Minded Attorneys and Family Law Professionals
The single most important factor in how much damage is done in a divorce is decided by who the parties hire to represent them. One destructive attorney is all it takes to make the divorce miserable for everyone involved. The truth is that most attorneys really try to make life better for their clients. There are attorneys in every community, however, that simply make that impossible. The Center for Divorce Management is a community of local attorneys that each understand the need to manage the damage done by divorce. Each attorney in our organization has committed to being part of the solution, rather than part of the problem.
Why Divorce Management Matters
Traditionally, the divorce attorney’s job in an adversarial hearing is to explore and exploit the opposing party's weaknesses. It’s their job to show the Court that their client is the better of the two parents. There are two ways to accomplish this objective: showcase his client's strengths or highlight the other parent’s weaknesses. Which do you think is most effective? What does almost every angry spouse want their attorney to do? All they want to do is destroy their soon-to-be ex. In their anger, they arm the attorney with every bit of insecurity, confessed between lovers at a time of intimate transparency, to use as ammunition. Once these intimacies are used against a spouse, the alienation is so acute, and the betrayal is so complete, that the concept of effective co-parenting fails.
That is why we say that the adversarial hearing between parents is the single most devastating event in the lives of the children of divorce. This is why we suggest that there is no way to "win" a divorce. There are only ways to minimize its adverse effects. Divorce Management allows you to explore the issues, the limits of what can be accomplished in a divorce, and how to move forward with your life effectively. Because both attorneys have the same philosophy, the parties avoid the tricks of the divorce trade that only enrich the attorneys at the expense of your children and your pocketbook.